Chapter 35Problems in Human Relations · Hatred and Dislike

That is quite right.1 Only those who sympathise can help — surely also one should be able to see the faults of others without hatred. Hatred injures both parties, it helps none.

* It is this feeling of dislike that must have been the ground for the attack to come in. All feelings of dislike for other sadhaks should be absolutely rejected. Each has his own nature, his own difficulties and has to struggle out of them with the Divine Help. Defects and limitations in them should not be made a ground for dislike.

* These things [reasons for disliking someone] are not sufficient to justify dislike. These dislikes come from some vital feeling and these reasons put forward by the mind are excuses, not the real cause. This collaboration between the mind and the vital, the vital throwing up the wrong movement, the mind justifying it, is one of the chief difficulties in the way of getting rid of the vital deviations.

* All antagonism to other sadhaks or dislike of them should go. There should be a calm goodwill and charity to all, but no inner mixing or interchange. Liking and disliking always means interchange of influences.

* 1 The correspondent said that he preferred to encourage a fellow sadhak for his good points rather than to hate him for his defects. — Ed.

You can disapprove [of what people say], but there should be no feeling of dislike or disgust for the people.

* The disgust should be for what is said, but not against those who say it.

* Yes. One should not do to others what one cannot bear from others.

* The position you took finally about what happened today is the right one — to make the effort for one’s own perfection and not to be disturbed by any mistake in others but reply by a silent will for their perfection also is always the right attitude.